There's nothing new about porn. Some people consume it in excess and it often doesn't bring any excitement to their sex life with their partner. in fact, sometimes it can be detrimental.

One of the ways i help people improve their sex lives and get to know their true desires better is to rethink how they use porn.

One of my favourite ways to use porn to build sexual tension is to blindfold your partner when you use porn together. Pick some porn and put it on but don't discuss in advance what it is. while your partner is listening, let them start asking questions. Who is in the room? Is she naked? Quietly and slowly describe the scene in detail. If you pay attention to what they ask or say you both could both gain new insights- when you describe a DP, she may respond by saying 'she loves feeling full doesn't she' rather than asking if she is enjoying it. Your partner has used their imagination to create their version of the porn and while they imagine what is happening, they may be highlighting certain aspects that turn them on, or that they want to explore, rather than being influenced by the visual cues of how the character is responding. Touch them while you describe the scene and deepen their fantasy by adding to what they are highlighting 'yes you can see how much she wants it - she is spreading her legs wider'. You can even take it a step further to make suggestions around whatever they are describing if it's something you've not tried, 'would you like to feel that full?' etc. Make the touching more and more sexual as the tension rises. I guarantee you will both have a happy ending.
You can also experiment with describing it in their ear from behind but not touching, just building and edging and describing how hard you are etc as it unfolds.

Have you found new ways to use porn in your sex life? Maybe you can teach me something new...